Relationship education has long lived in classrooms and retreats, but a new edition of a foundational guide aims to put those same skills directly into readers’ hands. PAIRS Foundation’s revised second edition of Love That Grows With You arrives at a moment when technology, caregiving pressures, and inherited family expectations are straining intimate partnerships in ways earlier generations never faced.
Lori Heyman Gordon and Seth Eisenberg (2017)
Author Seth Eisenberg
A practical guide to emotional connection and everyday intimacy, grounded in more than four decades of relationship education
MIAMI, FL, UNITED STATES, October 12, 2026 /EINPresswire.com/ — PAIRS Foundation has announced the release of the updated second edition of Love That Grows With You: A Practical Guide to Emotional Connection and Everyday Intimacy, written by Seth Eisenberg, who serves as President and CEO of PAIRS Foundation and holds the title of PAIRS Master Trainer. The paperback edition is available now on Amazon.
Designed for couples across all relationship stages — and equally for individuals reading independently — the book translates the curriculum taught in PAIRS workshops into accessible prose. Its twenty chapters tackle the modern forces reshaping romantic life, from digital distractions and financial strain to caregiving duties, long-distance arrangements, grief, and the behavioral patterns absorbed from one’s upbringing. Readers are offered concrete techniques for recognizing emotions before reacting, questioning assumptions, articulating requests directly, and truly listening to understand rather than simply waiting to respond.
“People can care deeply about one another and still struggle to have the conversation they need,” Eisenberg writes. “A request comes out as criticism. A frightened person becomes quiet. Someone who wants to help offers an explanation when the person beside them needs a few uninterrupted minutes to speak. I wrote this book to make some of that learning available on the page.”
What readers will find
Each chapter concludes with key takeaways, suggested next steps, and reflection prompts. A special section titled “Practicing the PAIRS Tools” provides step-by-step guidance for seven exercises refined throughout the program’s history: the Daily Temperature Reading, Talking Tips, Emptying the Emotional Jug, Caring Behaviors, the Powergram, Fair Fight for Change, and Confiding Emotional Allergies. Additional features include a glossary, chapter summaries, a tool-tracking worksheet, an index, and a personal journal section, along with recommendations for reading solo, with a partner, or separately followed by discussion.
Throughout the text, Eisenberg emphasizes personal agency. “No exercise can supply another person’s willingness,” he writes, “and no relationship is sustained by one person assuming responsibility for everything.” The book candidly acknowledges situations where unequal burdens, broken trust, or unmet needs cannot be resolved through better communication alone, and it offers guidance on recognizing when to pause and seek private support.
A foreword from the founder of PAIRS
The second edition opens with a foreword by Lori Heyman Gordon, who established PAIRS more than four decades ago and is also the author’s mother. Penned in 2017 for an earlier version of the book, the foreword describes Love That Grows With You as “the book I dreamed someone would write” and characterizes it as “the essence of PAIRS: practical tools for communication, emotional safety, and intimacy that can be learned, practiced, and shared.”
Grounded in research
A South Florida evaluation launched in 2006 and funded by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services gathered data from 5,110 adults who participated in nine-hour PAIRS Essentials classes conducted in English, Spanish, French, and Creole. Among participants with follow-up data, the evaluation documented improvements in relationship agreement, satisfaction, affection, and cohesion at six and twelve months post-program — including for those who began with significant relationship distress. Earlier research by Carlos Durana found that 76 percent of 137 married PAIRS participants maintained significant intimacy gains at a six- to eight-month follow-up.
Praise for Love That Grows With You
“Every couple needs this book. Whether you’re newly in love or decades deep, it gives you tools to grow closer, even when life gets messy.”
— Rachel M., couples therapist
“Love That Grows With You is a masterclass in intimacy, vulnerability, and repair. It’s the kind of book you keep close and return to often.”
— Dr. Michelle Q., psychologist
About the author
Seth Eisenberg is President and CEO of PAIRS Foundation and a PAIRS Master Trainer. He authored The Road of Happiness Now, Love That Grows With You, and Let It Out, created the Yodi app, and co-developed relationship education curricula used nationwide, including PAIRS Essentials and Warrior to Soul Mate. A husband, father, and grandfather, he resides in South Florida.
About PAIRS Foundation
PAIRS Foundation is a nonprofit organization founded in 1983 with a mission to teach the skills essential to close relationships. The organization has trained educators, clergy, counselors, and community leaders while delivering relationship education to individuals, couples, families, and veterans across the United States and internationally. More information is available at www.pairs4me.com.
Book details
Title: Love That Grows With You: A Practical Guide to Emotional Connection and Everyday Intimacy
Author: Seth Eisenberg
Foreword: Lori Heyman Gordon, founder of PAIRS
Publisher: PAIRS Foundation
Edition: Second Edition, 2026
Format: Paperback, 294 pages, 5.5 × 8.5 inches
ISBN: 979-8-16116-470-9
Price: $19.95
Availability: Amazon, https://www.amazon.com/Love-That-Grows-You-Communication/dp/B0HMJ7LJ19/
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Why it matters: With relationship distress linked to broader mental and physical health outcomes, making evidence-based communication tools available outside clinical settings — and at a $19.95 price point — expands access to support that many couples cannot otherwise find. The book’s grounding in four decades of program data, including a federally funded study of more than 5,000 participants, positions it as a practical resource for anyone navigating the quiet challenges that erode intimacy over time.
